Yellow

....It all depends on the definition of "my peeps" and "ok" and right now I'm struggling with both....

You know he's gone?  He left six months ago but it feels just like this morning.  I've been listening to The Beekeeper all day.  He said he was worried about me but I told him I was fine and he should go.  Then another said he was worried about me and I told him I was fine but I didn't tell him to go and he left anyway.  For 2 months I've wished I was the seated woman with the parasol.

The kettle on the stove is beginning to whistle quietly.  It won't get much past the hint of a whistle.  It's been broken for years.  Too many moves, too many apartments, too much time in and out of boxes.  That poor grease stained kettle has to be at least 9 years old by now.  Tonight I'm looking forward to a cup of green tea with lemongrass and mint.

It's been more than 12 years now of Mays turning into Junes and I have no thoughts about anything in any direction other than, what possessed me to buy a pack of cigarettes and smoke half of it before dinner?  My chest is filled with a thousand razor blades and weighs a ton.  But the taste in my mouth and the air around me is comforting and makes me smile and reminds me of more than a few great loves and adventures.

Tonight my mind keeps going to the back of the 15 foot Penske truck, half full and backed into the driveway on Moonflower Road.  Those ridiculous white and yellow barrel back chairs from the early 70's were the last things I had put in and we sat around on the back of the truck drinking beers together one last time.  Back in a time when going through 2 cases of beer and half a carton of Marlborough Lights after work was a daily occurrence for the four of us.  I've never been a smoker but I've always fallen in love with them.

I still have those ugly barrel back chairs in a storage unit sitting still and lonely and being the only material objects I'm saving solely for the memories they hold.  "Silly girl, a chair can't hold memories."  This I know but I wish I was sitting in one right now as I smoke the cigarettes of the ghosts.  I also wish I was drinking my Guinness out of the mugs he gave me that night in the back of the Penske truck.  I hope they are safe in that storage unit as well and did not become a casualty of my fickleness and flight response like countless other whats and whos.

In a few hours I will drunkenly curl up with his poems and probably a few of hers and maybe a song or 2 until I pass out.  I have no regrets but I some nights I swing from old wishes.  Tonight is one of those nights.

I am strawberry pudding.

Saturday morning....

Here it comes again.  Like clockwork.  There's a sigh of relief in my head as well as the longing for it to not end yet.  I'm never ready for summer to end.  The days have been cooler.  Cooler than August should really be actually (at least I think so).  And the evenings have been cool enough to wear jeans.  Although I haven't yet broken out of my dresses-all-day-everyday yet.  That's the part of me longing for summer to continue a few weeks longer than it will. 

The air is damp and chilly right now as I sit here sipping my green tea and honey.  That's another way I know the season is changing.... no coffee for me this morning.  The house is still asleep.  Today I will head home, open some windows and relax a few hours.  I am seriously bummed that my original plans for this evening have fallen through but there's nothing you can do about other people.  The universe will be whole again soon.  I have faith in that.  I'll take today as it comes.  Same with tomorrow and the next day.  Such is life and you have to enjoy as much of it as you can.  Things change, people change, time pauses for no one.   

The sun is almost breaking through the thick morning clouds.  It will be warm and bright again soon.  I am truly thankful to have had these past 2 peaceful mornings.  My heart is beating slower.  My thoughts are getting saner.  My balance between want and have is slowing creeping back. 

....

Monday evening thunder over my head and Tori in my ears.  I love watching the rain.  The lightening finally came by as well.  I love me a nice natural light show.  If you've ever been to my place you know I'm watching this all play out over the greened double-spired church across the way.  It's the perfect view from my bed.  As were the 4th of July fireworks and the hundred and seven rainbows I've seen in the past few months.

Its almost over.  This is not the way it was supposed to happen, but I knew it would be like this.  Now the sun is down.  2 more days.   The storms have set off a few car alarms... it seems like chaos out there and I am safe inside.  The thunder is wrapping me in stories tonight.  It has my undivided attention until I drift to sleep.

....

Up, showered and dressed early, and in search of new surroundings.  There's a coffee shop in Fishtown I've been wanting to try.... It smells of fresh coffee and has records decorating the walls.  The rain looks like snow the way it's dripping from the shop's side awning.  Heck, it all looks like snow the way it's blowing today.  Small drops... spray almost, coming down nearly sideways with a fury.  How many days now has it been raining?  I've lost count.  I've been rather enjoying it.  Someone just opened the door and along with the damp August air was a rush of cigarette smoke.  I think I'm in heaven.  Honestly, I'd be a smoker if I wasn't too lazy to start.  Maybe I'll give up not smoking this year.  Though I doubt I'd love the fresh second-hand smoke and stale smoke in the clothes, hair and fingers of the smokers if I was a smoker myself.

And Bob Dylan comes over the coffee shop speakers.  (smile)  Tomorrow I will see him live at The Mann.  I couldn't be more excited.  It will be a fun relaxing night before a day I’m nervous about.... uncertainty is as nerve-wracking as it is exciting.  The harmonica takes me back to a dog I fell in love with... I fall in love with dogs much easier than I do with people.  I think I'll always love the dogs most of all. 

Someone recently asked me if I've always lived in Philly and my instant reply was "yes."  An easy, unintentional lie.  Philly has never felt like home.  No place ever has really.  All the places I've ever spent more than a month in have been home to me.  Boston 1994 - 1998.  Nashville 1998 - 2000.  NYC/Woodside, Queens 2006 - 2008.  Ikaria, Greece the summer of 2001 (or 2002, I don‘t remember exactly).  Indian Rocks Beach, FL the summer of 2009 (not really home but a much needed month and a half vacation while I was temporarily homeless up north).  Philly and it's burbs before, in between, and since. 

The sun peeks out on cue as the Beatles come on.  (...and I say it's alright...)  A silly little coincidence but enough to bring a big smile to my face.  A short rain storm today, perhaps just one of many.  And now I'm watching the mailman paint the mailbox on the corner of Girard and Columbia.  Once upon a time I lived in a wonderful house 3 blocks up the street from here but that was long before this coffee shop existed. 

I loved that house.  I needed a place to live and my sister worked with a guy who knew a guy.... something like that.  I remember first seeing the place.  I walked in and fell in love.  Coming from all sorts of shit and decent and nice apartments, I had never before thought of renting a house.  2 story, 2 bedroom, claw-foot tub, large eat-in-kitchen, dining room, living room complete with black marble mantel, crown molding in the whole house, beautiful light fixtures, full basement with washer and dryer and a big backyard, fenced in with trees and flowers and the most beautiful black irises.  Perfect.

My friend, who was to be my roommate, showed up after I had seen the entire house.  I couldn't contain my excitement as I took him around to see it.  I was literally jumping up and down.  We could afford the rent easily.  Location was great.  All I needed was for him to agree.  It was the one time in my life I ever seriously used "pretty please" followed by an unknown number of solo "please"s.  And of course, "I want to live here really badly!"  Cue The Smiths... (....so please, please, please let met, let me, let me get what I want this time....).  He agreed and we moved in at the end of that month.

That was the last time I ever begged the Universe for anything.  Lesson learned.  I let the chips fall where they may now.   And I know I'm right in the middle of something now.  Certain doors are wide open.  Some doors are trying to close and some are fighting to keep open even just a crack.  I'm lost when it comes to humanity.  I have such a lack of faith and trust in the world around me.  I don’t think I can live this way for long.  I have places to go but without even an idea of where I want to end up how do I know what I should do?  Make myself happy right?  Have trust in my friends.  Draw a clear line between friends and lovers.  Follow the music where it takes me.  Buy a chair for my apartment.

Direction and peace of mind just like that :p  Now if the rain would stop I could walk home though there's a nice selection of eye candy here, maybe I shouldn't be in such a hurry to leave....

Love and Friends

why would I stop loving you?

A single line tucked in the middle of an email reduced me to tears this morning.  Honestly, I've had a difficult time with several things recently and tears have been keeping me company.  It is not necessarily an entirely bad thing.  It just is.  Sometimes we all need a break from being (or pretending to be) strong and put together and need to allow ourselves some time to be selfish and human.

While I am being honest I would like to add that this dull aching throb in my chest is like none other I have felt before... it's bubbling.  Not like a freshly opened soda but like a thick tar-like something at a fast boil on the stove.  I awoke mid-night from a dream of events to come in the near future with the bubbly throb amplified and my left arm numb.  I was certain in my hazy sleepiness that my heart was literally broken.  Perhaps it is.  It will scab over in time.

On Monday I took a walk to see a friend.  A friend with whom I don't share much of anything verbally but I feel understands me better than most.  We chatted a few minutes and set a date for me to come back for longer and I left, closing the door gently behind me.  I walked most of the 2.5 miles home before finally giving in to hunger and heat and hopping the trolley to the bar.

Bonk's was surprisingly full for 3:30 on a Monday afternoon.  I ordered a crabcake and onion rings and swallowed down a few lagers.  When I was at the point of picking at my onion rings a man approached and burst into a story of how he and his friends were discussing the "damsel in distress" alone in the bar and how he should come up and talk with me but wanted to wait until I was finished eating.  I thanked him for that and quietly resented the "damsel in distress" moniker.  From that point I was introduced to and shook hands with all 18 people occupying the bar and the older gentleman (17 yrs my senior) next to me provided me with conversation for the rest of my time there.  Following a polite amount of conversation after his awkward yet sweet attempt to ask me on a date and my decline, I paid my check and stumbled from the bar.

There is something I love immensely about a mid-day drunk.  Bumbling my way through the city streets while people are just arriving home from work always brings a smile to my face.  It reminds me that I do have a wonderful life.  I hiccupped as I walked which made me laugh out loud and in turn talk to myself the whole way home.  I passed a large bed of purple, fuchsia, and pink pansies and was overwhelmed by the smell of lilies.  Even in my inebriation I knew that my eyes and nose were not agreeing on the current situation.  I laughed and hiccupped and continued on my way glancing back periodically to make sure I wasn’t being followed.

Today all I hear in my head is Ms. Molli's voice easing my concerns over decisions I had made, "Extraordinary lives don't just fall into people's laps.  You have to take risks and make stupid choices."  Somewhere in the past 2 years I forgot that and am glad to have remembered it upon reawakening this morning with feeling having returned to my left arm.  I love nothing more than seeing the people I love do crazy-ass things in an effort to find their own extraordinary life.  Though today it means losing a great friend to the distance of a new life, hopefully a better life.  And I know using the word "losing" here is going to touch a nerve but that is the truth in the sense that there will be no more hanging out, no more ridiculous electronic communication while sitting next to each other on the couch or waiting to play a gig, and I'm sure considerably less gmail chatting in the evenings as time will be otherwise occupied.  But amid the selfish melancholy I am still more thrilled and excited at the new world that awaits and agree that perhaps it‘s time I do the same again.  And just in case you ever find yourself lost in a fairy tale:

Remember your name.
Do not lose hope - what you seek will be found.
Trust ghosts.  Trust those that you have helped
to help you in their turn.
Trust dreams,
Trust your heart, and trust your story.
When you come back, return the way you came.
Favors will be returned, debts will be repaid.
Do not forget your manners.
Do not look back.
Ride the wise eagle (you shall not fall).
Ride the silver fish (you will not drown).
Ride the grey wolf (hold tightly to his fur).
-Neil Gaiman excerpt "Instructions"

Lo

I met her 12 years ago or so.   She appeared out of nowhere when I needed the kind of friend that forces life on you.  She always swings by at (mostly) the right times and I love her for that.  Last night around 7 pm I heard the raucous knock on my door and there she was... her long dark hair sticking in every direction, makeup smudged and smeared, her old cut t-shirt hanging off both boney shoulders with a big hole on the right side exposing half of her stomach.  Her skin tight jeans were shredded at the heels, torn at the knees and down to threads across her ass and thighs.  A cloud of whiskey hovered around her.  There was a twinkle in her eye and a crooked smile on her face.  I love this white hot mess.

With little more then a "hey" grunt, she crushed her cigarette out on the carpet in front of my door and burst into my apartment dropping her tattered oversized purse on my kitchen floor... junk spewed everywhere... lipstick, a bra, a half empty fifth of Jack, and a ton of random shit.  Right to the fridge where she grabbed a beer off the top shelf and downed it in one breath.  She grabbed another, popped it open and handed it to me with a smile, grabbed herself another and asked how I've been.  "Fuckin ballz-ass shitty" I replied.  She laughed at me, started stripping off her clothes, grabbed another beer and headed to the bathroom.  I heard the water run for a bath.  A few minutes later I hear her singing loudly and I settle back into bed with my beer and a smile on my face. 


L.A. February 2006...  I was on tour on the west coast and she happened to be out there the same time.  I had several hours of rehearsals which caused me to miss both Grammy's parties she had invited me to.  She was always getting invites to things like that.  Lucky girl.

Late the following afternoon a silver 2 door convertible picked me up in front of my hotel.  She "borrowed it" she told me and to "hop in."  We grabbed a quick lunch and headed to the Hotel Cafe for my show that night.  I don't remember much of the show other than it went well.  There was a good crowd and it was the only night on tour we played as a trio instead of a duo and I got to play an acoustic piano.

After the show and a few drinks we drove around town in that great little convertible with the top down.  February!  It was shocking for a north-east coast girl like me.  It seemed that everywhere we went, she ran into people she knew and before long there was a dozen or so people on the hunt for liquor before heading back to my hotel room on the Sunset Strip.  By the time we got to my room we had collected 30 or so more people and a few bars worth of booze. 

What a party!  The first time security came, they told us to keep it down.  The second time they came, they told us to clear out or get kicked out.  The third (and fourth) time they came we shoved 30 some people out on the 10th floor balcony that was large enough for a small bistro set and closed the curtains.   I woke up the following morning in a king sized bed with 2 beautiful women and a man I'd never seen before.  Some quick showers, a few hugs, and I was back on the road en route to San Francisco for more shows. 

She didn't stay in L.A. much longer.  She doesn't really stay anywhere for long.  I saw her briefly in NYC a few months later.


An hour after she disappeared into my bathroom she reappears with another beer for each of us and slides her warm naked body next to me.  She looks thinner than she has since her days in L.A. but not a bit worse for wear.  We cuddle up for "story" time and share adventure tales.  Hers are always better than mine...  her laughter is intoxicating along with the smell of lavender radiating from her soft skin.  The cloud of whiskey has been replaced with a cloud of beer around us both.  This is just what I needed.